Return & Position Of Husband And Wife

LESSON # 270 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

Return & Position Of Husband And Wife

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 228b    of  286, Section – 29 (Part – 2)

 

And their husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire a reconciliation. And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. And Allah is Mighty, Wise.  

Wa  bu- uulatuhunna  ‘ahaqqu  bi-raddihinna  fii  zaalika  ‘in  ‘araaduuu  ‘islaahaa.  Wa la-hunna  mislullazii  ‘alayhinna  bil-ma’-ruuf,  wa  lir-rijaali  ‘alayhinna  darajah.  Wallaahu  ‘Aziizun  Hakiim.

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Zaalika – (in that case, in it), that is to say in the term/period of three months.

 

‘Ahaqqu  bi-raddihinna – (they have more rights to take them back). This proves from it that the husband should not take quite last decision till the time he can delay and it is better if they both (husband and wife) establish themselves again from the beginning, and the time of their separation doesn’t come forever.   

 

The Divine law of Islam has kept it lawful only as remedy at the time of necessity and last proposal. It has neither been induced positively to divorce, nor is it liked without need. The words “ ‘Abgazul-mubahaat” have been used in one Hadith out of the Sayings of Last Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon Him) which means ‘most disliked deed near God Almighty out of fixed lawful acts by Him’ i.e. the divorce. So after meditation and consideration the husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire reconciliation. They can cancel the divorce. Technically it is called looking back (towards marriage).

 

After permitting return (to wife) Allah Almighty has also admonished that the divorce should only be abolished if both the life partners remain in peace and truce with one another in future, and it should not be the purpose to torture the woman. Although the husband can cancel the divorce legally, but his good behavior doesn’t relate to the law, moreover it depends only on his courtesy and good intention. So the human should adopt passage of good outward and natural behavior.

 

Then it is told that as the men have rights over the women, like this the women also have rights over men. It has been intimated to the world, “you should not deem that only the men have rights over the women, as well as they also have rights over men. However the man has some degree above the woman in excellence and merit. This excellence and virtue of the man is due to his wisdom and power. These all orders are from God Almighty which we have to admit because He is most Mighty and Wise.

 

 

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif) 

Term (‘Iddat)

LESSON # 269 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

Term (‘Iddat)

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 228a    of  286, Section – 28 (Part – 2)

 

Women who are divorced shall wait, keeping themselves apart, three (monthly) courses. And it is not lawful for them that they should conceal that which Allah hath created in their wombs if they are believers in Allah and the Last Day.

Wal-mutallaqaatu  yatarab-basna  bi-‘anfusi-hinna  salaasata  quruuu’.  Wa  laa ya—hillu  lahunna  ‘any-yaktumna  maa khalaqallaahu  fiii  ‘ar-haa-mihinna  ‘in-kunna  yu’-minna  billaahi  wal-Yawmil-‘Aakhir.

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‘Al-mutallaqaatu – (the divorced women), each that woman who has been divorced, is called mutallaqah. According to the religious laws it aims only those wives, who are free, adult and act of intercourse has been performed with them, not those women who are lawful bondwomen, minor and who have not been touched with any adult male.

 

Yatarab-basna  bi-‘anfusi-hinna – (they shall wait, keeping themselves apart), for instance it should not be so that hither the husband divorced her wife and thither she wedded any other husband. Likewise this relation will become just a game.

 

Salaasata  quruuu-‘in – (three (monthly) courses), literal meaning of qur’ is only a specified period but here it means menstruations.

 

Maa khalaqAllaahu – (which Allah has created), the thing which is in the womb, that is to say; if she is pregnant then she should not conceal her pregnancy.

 

It has been mentioned in this verse that if the husband has divorced her wife then that woman should not marry immediately another husband. Moreover she would have to wait not less than three (monthly) courses. There are many advisabilities for example; the husband gets chance of consideration and meditation with cool heart. On the other side belief regarding pregnancy becomes matured. Like this the children of one person can’t get the other. So it is duty of the woman that she should disclose which is in her belly.

 

This term is called ‘iddat in the Divine law of Religion. As though two lessons have been commanded here:

 

1.   It is reasonable to wait for a specified period after divorce. 

 

2.   If she is pregnant then she should not conceal but disclose it. There are uncountable moral and social advantages in these both orders.  

 

The matters which are being discussed continuously regarding divorce in this part of Holy Qur-’an, demand our special attention, because in the present epoch the divorce has become a joke in the world. A few women would be in the West who don’t get divorce, and they are tyrannized in the East but are not divorced. There is a dire need to publicize this temperate teaching of Islam now a day.           

 

  

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif) 

Beginning Of Divorce

LESSON # 268 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

Beginning Of Divorce

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 226 & 227    of  286, Section – 28 (Part – 2)

 

226. Those who forswear their wives must wait four months; then, if they change their mind, lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.

 

227. And if they decide upon divorce (let them remember that) Allah is Hearer, Knower.        

226.  Lillaziina  yu’-luuna  min-nisaaa-‘ihim  tarabbusu  ‘arba-‘ati  ‘ash-hur.  Fa-‘in-faaa-‘uu  fa-‘innallaaha Gafuurur-Rahiim.

 

227.  Wa  ‘in  azamut-talaaqa  fa-‘innallaaha Samii-‘un  ‘Aliim.

 

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Yu’-luuna – (who forswear), this word is derived from ‘iilaa which means forswear. Idiomatically its object is to swear living separate from the wife. It was common custom in the Arabians that whenever they became rage, they forswore remaining separate from their wives.  

 

 Talaaq – (divorce), according to law disconnecting the mutual relations entirely between husband and wife is called ‘divorce’, repudiation. Different methods about divorce were customary in the world before Islam. There was no restriction or responsibility in the matter of divorce between Jews. Whenever any person wished, he got rid of his wife writing a divorce letter only. The wife could wed another husband at the same time. Comparing this freedom the Christians chose very difficult manner. They kept no accommodation for husband and wife to be separate, except that the wife becomes guilty of fornication. The same condition is of the Indian religion. The divorce is still unlawful for them till today. On the contrary Islam adopted the way of temperance.

 

It was mode of Arabians that after forswear, which was a kind of divorce near to them, used to become free from paying the expenditures of his wife, performing other duties and responsibilities for her. Islam corrected this rule and told that forswear is not equal to breaking marriage, but it is only the beginning. Islam has determined length of time for meditation and consideration and period for this long time kept four months, which is quite sufficient for this purpose that the husband may think with cool heart on all aspects and this important matter of separation from his wife.

 

Islam has put its permission that if the husband feels faithfully that if his life partner either doesn’t cooperate with him or doesn’t fulfill his lawful desires, then he should divorce her, despite it that they pine away their entire lives, remain displeased from one another. It is better that they should be disconnected.                  

 

 

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif)  

False Oaths

LESSON # 267 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

False Oaths

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 225    of  286, Section – 28 (Part – 2)

 

Allah will not take you to task for that which is unintentional in your oaths. But He will take you to task for that which your hearts have garnered. And Allah is Forgiving, Clement.   

Laa  yu-‘aakhizu-kumul-laahu  bil-lagwi  fiii  ‘ay-maani-kum  wa  laakiny-yu-‘aakhizu-kum- bimaa  kasabat  quluubu-kum.  Wallaahu  Gafuurun  Haliim. 

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Bil-lagwi  fiii  ‘ay-maani-kum – (your unintentional oaths), false oaths means the oaths which are spoken either unintentional due to ignorance or those slip from the tongue only due to malice, and adulteration of a lie enters into them without intention. Learned men have told that there are many kinds of false oaths. Their relation may be also with past events as well as with the habit that the person uses to swear without reason, swear in each affair. The scholars have strongly disapproved this act.

 

Gafuurun – (Forgiving), Allah Almighty is Great Forgiving. Due to His this Dignity He forgave the punishment against the false oaths like these.   

 

Haliim – (Clement), it also means Mild, Patient and Merciful. God Almighty is Great Clement. Taking His Position into account He doesn’t punish for false oaths too. Moreover He postpones the punishment so that the mankind may get the chance of repentance. .

 

It was stated in the previous verse, “And make not Allah, by your oaths, a hindrance to your being righteous and observing your duty unto Him and making peace among mankind”. These kinds of oaths haven’t any value. For example if someone says, “By God I shall never go to the mosque for prayer”. It is a false oath because Allah Almighty orders to offer prayers in the mosque. And this fellow is using His name refraining from this act.

 

Now it is being commanded in this verse, “that oath is reliable which is sworn whole heartedly”, not that which is sworn habitual or false and emphasizing it.

 

Unintentional oaths are pardonable. The aim is that he should expiate against the broken oaths and should abstain from the false oaths like these in future. Islam doesn’t like this type of childishness and lowness.   

 

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif)

Use Of Wrong Oaths

LESSON # 266 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

Use Of Wrong Oaths

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 224    of  286, Section – 28 (Part – 2)

 

And make not Allah, by your oaths, a hindrance to your being righteous and observing your duty unto Him and making peace among mankind. And Allah is Hearer, Knower.

Wa  laa  taj-‘alullaaha  ‘urzatal-li-‘ay-maanikum  ‘an-tabarruu  wa  tattaquu  wa  tus-lihuu  bay-nan-naas.  Wallaahu  Samii-‘un  ‘Aliim. 

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‘Urzatan – (aim), this word is also used for hindrance and shield/target. Here it means hindrance only.  

 

Samii-‘un – (Hearer), God Almighty Hears all the talks of human being as well as each creature. So the mankind should think before speak every matter.    

 

‘Aliimun – (Knower), Allah Almighty Knows better the states and conditions of the human. So he should keep purity and sincerity in his intention each time.

 

Tabarruu – (treat with kind), this word has been derived from the word Barr, which means goodness.

 

Whenever the persons used to displease upon any other, they used to make God Almighty, by their oaths that they would neither go toward him nor speak with him and nor try to make a truce between them with whom he has quarreled, even that if the displeasures had been between the near relatives, and then these oaths used to become pretence for leaving many good deeds. At the very time if any body used to say, “Why did you leave to do these acts?” then they used to feign that they had made the oath for this action.

 

Even it was also worse to leave the good actions, what it had become bad that using the name of Allah Almighty, the Great they used to grow the situation of escaping from the good deeds. This verse is signifying towards this matter and it is being ordered that “don’t do so in future and if any body has sworn already then it is sufficient to break that oath and expiate. The scholars have also disliked often swearing in abundance and without any necessity, because due to this reason the name of Allah Almighty is devalued, and it is also not good to call the name of God Almighty for the bad deeds.

 

Allah Almighty is Great, Glorious and Owner of the entire universe. His Name has also Grandeur and Grace. It is very bad to make witness so much High and Excelled Name upon the bad deeds. Then it is worst to use His name for defense for not doing the good acts. Allah Almighty doesn’t prevent from good actions, so this excuse is quite meaningless. The name of God Almighty should never be used for oath for the likewise deeds, and if any person has already sworn erroneously then he should break it and expiate.    

 

 

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif)

Care For The Next Life (Doomsday)

LESSON # 265 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

Care For The Next Life (Doomsday)

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 223b    of  286, Section – 28 (Part – 2)

 

And send (good deeds) before you for your souls, and fear Allah. And know that ye will (one day) meet Him. And give glad tidings to believers, (O  Muhammad).            

Wa  qaddimuu  li-‘anfusikum.  Wattaqul-laaha  wa’-lamuuu  ‘annakum-mulaa-quuh.  Wa  bashshiril-Mu’-miniin.  

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It has been clarified earlier that our life doesn’t finish after death, but enters in to a new era, and its comfort or vexation depends there upon those deeds which we do in this world. Good or bad reflection of this life’s deeds and acts lies down in the shape of that life’s success or failure. This world is the place of test and examination. We have to make provision for future enduring hardness and troubles here. That Day of Resurrection is the place to get reward or punishment for the deeds done by us during this life.

 

The relations between male and female had been mentioned in the previous lesson, and it was told that the real purpose of husband and wife’s sensual meeting is gain of children and breed. Now it has been reminded in this part of the verse positively that “Do something regularly for your future and don’t drown in the worship of sexual pleasure entirely at that very time of sensual pleasure’s engagement. Moreover make your pleasures also the obedience and worship, and it can be made if you consider making the result better at the time of doing each work”. 

 

It has been emphasized again and again to have fear of God Almighty that the human should keep in mind Allah Almighty during every condition of life, like during sitting, standing, sleeping, awaking, eating and drinking etc. He should proceed on straight path escaping from abundance and Deflation. In the end God Almighty commands His Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon Him) to give glad tidings of good rewards to the Believers, who have following qualities:

 

1.   Keeping the words Qaddimuu  li-‘anfusikum (send (good        deeds) before you for your souls) in mind a Believer has the concept of his future. He doesn’t make the pleasure and lust his ‘required’. But he keeps in foresight better results and end.

 

  1. It is the aim to tell the order of ‘Ittaqul-laaha repeatedly that the Muslim has to become an incomparable mankind remaining under the limits of God fearing and abstinence. The world will envy looking him.

 

  1. 3.   Mulaa-quuh – (you will ‘one day’ meet Him) It is being reminded at the very time of mentioning the sexual matters that finally you will have to be present in the Court of God Almighty. Cautious! Don’t do so act due to which you would have to feel ashamed.    

 

 

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif) 

After The Days Of Menstruation

LESSON # 263 FROM HOLY QUR’AN

After The Days Of Menstruation

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 222b    of  286, Section – 28 (Part – 2)

 

And go not in unto them till they are cleansed. And when they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allah hath enjoined upon you. Truly Allah loveth those who turn unto Him, and loveth those who have a care for cleanness.              

Wa  laa taqrabuu-hunna  hatta  yat-hurn.  Fa-‘izaa  ta-tahharna  fa’-tuu-hunna  min  hay-su  ‘amara-kumul-laah.  ‘Innal-laaha  yuhibbut-Tawwaa-biina  wa  yuhibbul-Muta-tahhiriin.

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‘At-Tawwaa-biina – (who turn unto Him), it aims all those people who whenever are wrong by chance, afterward they renounce solemnly and become much ashamed.

 

‘Al-Muta-tahhiriin – (who have a care for cleanness), it signifies particularly towards those persons who remain away from their wives (ignore the act of intercourse) during their days of menstruation (until they are cleansed).

 

In the former lesson the Holy Qur’an had determined the menstruation as illness and nastiness. It has been told in this verse that whenever this foul blood stops and the woman cleanses then it is lawful to sleep together (intercourse process is permitted). This lawful act should be done natural and with the lawful method. It should not be done with un-natural method.

 

We have learnt in the previous lessons that Allah Almighty has kept sexual attraction between the male and female, and with the sensual process although both persons get enjoyment but this enjoyment is not the last aim. Real aim and result of the relationship between husband and wife is attainment of children. Forgetting it if any person wants to get enjoyment from any other method then it will be quite unlawful.

 

It has been mentioned in the Holy Qur’an that the nation of Prophet Lot (peace be upon him) had fallen in sodomy. The Prophet (peace be upon him) made them to understand but they didn’t agree entirely, and at last God Almighty ruined them with His anguish and made them example for forthcoming breeds/people. So it should be kept in mind that if the human beings will indulge in that sin again then His agony may come again upon them.

 

In the last Holy Qur’an says that Allah Almighty likes those persons who turn unto Him, who renounce solemnly, become ashamed due to their wrong and abstain from committing any error/sin in future. So if any person has committed this sin in the past, then he should do the repentance at once, God Almighty will forgive him. Allah Almighty likes those people who remain cleansed.

 

Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif)