Lessons from Holy Qur'an

Return & Position Of Husband And Wife


Return & Position Of Husband And Wife

BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)

Verse – 228b    of  286, Section – 29 (Part – 2)


And their husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire a reconciliation. And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. And Allah is Mighty, Wise.  

Wa  bu- uulatuhunna  ‘ahaqqu  bi-raddihinna  fii  zaalika  ‘in  ‘araaduuu  ‘islaahaa.  Wa la-hunna  mislullazii  ‘alayhinna  bil-ma’-ruuf,  wa  lir-rijaali  ‘alayhinna  darajah.  Wallaahu  ‘Aziizun  Hakiim.




Zaalika – (in that case, in it), that is to say in the term/period of three months.


‘Ahaqqu  bi-raddihinna – (they have more rights to take them back). This proves from it that the husband should not take quite last decision till the time he can delay and it is better if they both (husband and wife) establish themselves again from the beginning, and the time of their separation doesn’t come forever.   


The Divine law of Islam has kept it lawful only as remedy at the time of necessity and last proposal. It has neither been induced positively to divorce, nor is it liked without need. The words “ ‘Abgazul-mubahaat” have been used in one Hadith out of the Sayings of Last Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon Him) which means ‘most disliked deed near God Almighty out of fixed lawful acts by Him’ i.e. the divorce. So after meditation and consideration the husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire reconciliation. They can cancel the divorce. Technically it is called looking back (towards marriage).


After permitting return (to wife) Allah Almighty has also admonished that the divorce should only be abolished if both the life partners remain in peace and truce with one another in future, and it should not be the purpose to torture the woman. Although the husband can cancel the divorce legally, but his good behavior doesn’t relate to the law, moreover it depends only on his courtesy and good intention. So the human should adopt passage of good outward and natural behavior.


Then it is told that as the men have rights over the women, like this the women also have rights over men. It has been intimated to the world, “you should not deem that only the men have rights over the women, as well as they also have rights over men. However the man has some degree above the woman in excellence and merit. This excellence and virtue of the man is due to his wisdom and power. These all orders are from God Almighty which we have to admit because He is most Mighty and Wise.



Transliteration in Roman Script & English Translation of Holy Qur’an written by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazar, Lahore and Paraphrase collected from Dars e Qur’an published By Idara Islah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated by Muhammad Sharif)