Relations with husband, children & Other Kin

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER (153 TO 174)

(SALLALLAHO-ALAIHE-WA-AALEHI-WASALLAM)

Relations with husband, children & Other Kin

153.       Sayyidah “Umm Salmah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       The woman whose husband is pleased with her and she dies will be sent to Paradise. (Ibn Majah, Tirmizi, Targheeb)

154.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Awf (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The woman who observes the five prayers regularly, fasts during the month of Ramadhan, preserves her chastity and obedient to her husband, will be told: Enter Paradise by whichever of its doors you wish to enter. (Ahmad, Tabarani, Targheeb)

155.       Sayyidina Husayn bin Mohsin (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Your husband is your Paradise and your Hell. (If he is obeyed then he is a means to Paradise, otherwise Hell). (Ahmad, Nasa’i, Targheeb)

156.       Sayyidina Qays bin Sa’d (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If I were to command a person to prostrate before any other person I would command women to prostrate before their husbands because Allah has allowed many rights to husbands. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)

157.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       It is the husband’s right on his wife that if he calls her to him she must not say no even if she is seated on a saddle back. It is also one of his rights that she must not observe optional fasting without his permission; if she does so then she will stay hungry and thirsty (meaninglessly) and her fasting will not be accepted. No woman should go out of her house without the permission of her husband; if she does so then the Angels of the heaven, Angels of mercy, Angels of punishment-all curse her until she returns. (Tabarani, Targheeb)

158.       Sayyidina Zayd bin Arqam (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A woman cannot fulfill the rights of Allah unless she fulfils the rights of her husband. (Tabarani, Targheeb)

159.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Allah does not look at that woman (with mercy) who does not thank her husband although she can never be independent of him. (Nasa’i, Targheeb)

160.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If a husband calls his wife to his bed and she does not oblige so that he is annoyed with her for the night then the Angels curse such a woman until dawn. (Bukhari, Targheeb)

 

RELATIONS WITH Children

161.       Sayyidah ‘Aishah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       If anyone has on him the responsibility of raising daughters and he fulfils that responsibility gently, then these daughters will be a means to protect him from the Fire. (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)

162.       Sayyidina Jabir bin Samurah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone teaches his children etiquettes it is better than paying one Sa’ in Sadaqah. (Sa’ is a measure of weight. Sadaqah is charity). (Tirmizi, Mishkat)

163.       Sayyidina Anas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone raises two daughters looking after them until they attain adulthood then, on the day of Resurrection, I and he will be (near to one another) like that, saying that he joined his fingers together. (Muslim, Mishkat)

164.       Sayyidina Ibn ‘Abbas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone is guardian over a girl (daughter, sister etc) and he does not bury her alive, does not belittle her, and does not prefer his male children over her then Allah will send him to Paradise. (Abu Dawood, Mishkat)

165.       Sayyidina Ayyub bin Moosa (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A father cannot give his son a gift better than good moral upbringing. (Tirmizi, Mishkat)

166.       Sayyidina Suraaqah bin Maalik (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Shall I not reveal to you the most superior Sadaqah? If your daughter returns to you (on being divorced) and there is no one to earn for her besides you (then you must take care of her). (Ibn Majah, Mishkat)

167.       Sayyidina Sabrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Teach your child to pray when he is seven years old. At ten years of age, beat him (if he neglects prayer). (Ahmad, Tirmizi, al-Jami’as-Saghir by Seyuti)

168.       Sayyidina Bakr bin ‘Abdullah bin ar-Rabee (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Teach your children swimming and archery. The best play for the believing women is the spinning wheel. When your mother and father summon you simultaneously then you must go to your mother first. (Ibn Mansoor, Faryaabi, al-Jami’as-Saghir)

 

 

Relations With Other Kin

169.       Sayyidina Sa’eed bin al-‘Aas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The elder brothers have rights over their younger brothers similar to the rights of a father over his sons. (Bayhaqi, Mishkat)

170.       Sayyidina ‘Ali (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The paternal uncle of a person is a branch of his father. (Tirmizi, al-Jami’as-Saghir)

171.       Sayyidina Baraa’ bin ‘Azib (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The maternal aunt is of the same rank as one’s mother. (Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, al-Jami’as-Saghir)

172.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Learn enough of your geneology to be able to keep relationships alive because joining ties with relatives brings about love, increases wealth and delays death. (Tirmizi, Mishkat)

173.       Sayyidina Jubayr bin Mut’im (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He who breaks ties of relationship will not enter Paradise. (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)

174.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He who reciprocates (the kind gestures of relatives) is not the one who joins ties of relationship but he is the one to join these ties who responds kindly to those who break relationship with him. (Bukhari, Muslim)

 

 

Collected  from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him),  Written by Justice Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani &  Published by Darul Ishaat, Urdu Bazaar Karachi, by Muhammad Sharif Fauji   

Family Life

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER (130 TO 152)

(SALLALLAHO-ALAIHE-WA-AALEHI-WASALLAM)

Family Life

Behaviour with parents

130.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Children can never repay their father until they find their father enslaved and buy him and set him free. (Muslim, Abu Dawood, Tirmizi, Targheeb)

131.       Sayyidina Abu ‘Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Your parents may mean Paradise for you (if you behave well with them) or Hell too (if you disobey them)(Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

132.       Sayyidina Anas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He who craves for a long life and abundance of provision must behave kindly with his parents and maintain ties with them. (Ahmad, Targheeb)

133.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Adopt modesty with the women of other men, your women will remain virtuous and adopt pious conduct with your parents, and your children will behave well with you.(Haakim, Targheeb)

134.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He rubs his nose in dust. Rubs his nose in dust, rubs his nose in dust. (He was asked, “Who, O Messenger of Allah?” He said), “The person who had aged parents yet could not make his way to Paradise.   (Muslim, Targheeb)

135.       Sayyidina Mu’awiyah bin Jahimah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Stay with your mother, for Paradise is under her feet.(Ibn Majah, Nasa’i, Targheeb)

136.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       There are three people towards whom Allah will not look at all (with mercy):

1.   One who disobeys his parents.

2.   One who is addicted to wine, and

3.   One who boasts of his favours.  (Nasa’i, Bazzaar, Targheeb)

Husband and Wife

137.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ood (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       O young people! Those of you who are able to do it must marry because this is the best way to keep your gaze down. In this way you can better check your sexual desires. As for him who cannot afford to marry, he must observe fasting frequently because fasting is a means to curb sexual desires.   (Bukhari, Muslim, Targheeb)

138.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The world is a treasure and the best of its treasures is a pious woman.  (Nasa’i, Muslim, Targheeb)

139.       Sayyidina Abu Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Next to Taqwaa (God-fearing attitude), there is nothing better for a believing man than a pious wife. She is one who obeys her husband in every command he gives. When he looks towards her, she pleases him. And, if he swears by her (saying that she would do as he says, surely) then she does not let him down. When her husband is absent she is extremely careful about his property and her own self. (Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

140.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       There are three men who have assurance of Allah’s help:

1.   One who wages Jihad for the sake of Allah.

2.   Makaatib (a slave whose master will release him if he pays a specified sum of money) who intends to pay the money.

3.   One who marries to keep himself away from indecency. (Tirmizi, Targheeb)

141.       Sayyidina Abu Sa’eed Khudri (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A Woman is married for one of the four reasons:

(1)  Her beauty, (2) her wealth, (3) her good character, or (4) her piety.

       Choose a woman who is pious and well be-haved(Ahmad, Targheeb)

Relation with Wife

142.       Sayyidina Maymoon from Sayyidina Ubayy(Radi-ALLAHO-An-hum)

       If anyone marries a woman agreeing to pay a dower, little or much, but not really intending to pay it to her then he has cheated her. If he dies afterwards without paying her the dower then he will face Allah on the day of Resurrection as an adulterer.    (Targheeb)

143.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)    Among the believers, those who have a good character have perfected their belief. And the best among you are those who are good to their women.    (Tirmizi,Targheeb)

144.                     Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        Let not a believing man hate his believing wife. If he does not like anything in her, he is sure to find something else adorable. (Muslim, Targheeb)

145      Sayyidina mu`awiyah bin Haydah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        A wife’s right over her husband is that he feeds her when he feeds himself, clothes her when he clothes himself; does not hit her on her face and does not speak to her rudely; and does not spend the night away from her (out of anger) except within the same house. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)

146.    Sayyidina ‘Amr bin al-Ahwas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Listen! Follow my advice in treating women gently. This is because they stay with you restricted. You have no right over anything belonging to them except that they do not do anything shameful. In that case you leave them alone on their bed and beat them lightly so that they do not feel the pain. Then if they obey you do not oppress them. Remember, you have some rights over your wives, and your wives have some rights over you. It is your right over them that they do not defile your bed with those you do not like, and do not let such people as you do not like enter your house. Remember, they have a right over you that you treat them well in feeding and clothing them. (Ibn Majah, Tirmizi)

147. Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        This is a dinar that you spend in the cause of Allah. That is a dinar that you again use to emancipate a slave. And, this is also a dinar that you give as Sadaqah to a needy person. This too is a dinar which you spend on your wife. Of these, you will fetch the highest reward on the dinar that you spend on your wife. (Muslim, Targheeb)

148.       Sayyidah ‘Aisha (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       Does that man among you not feel ashamed that he beats his wife in the early part of the day as if he is beating his slave then in the last part of that very day he sleeps with her (having sexual intercourse)? Is he not ashamed of himself? (Abd bin Humayd, Kanz ul-‘Ummaal)

149.       Sayyidina Abu Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The worst of men is he who is stingy in giving the rights of his household members.    (Kanz ul-‘Ummaal)

150.       Sayyidina Ilyas bin ‘Abdullah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Many women make the rounds of the house of Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon Him). They complain (of being beating at the hands) of their husbands. Such people (who beat their wives) are not the best among you. (Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Mishkat)

151.       Sayyidina Asma bint Abu Bakr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       I do not like it that I should see anyone with swollen veins of his neck, standing over his wife and beating her.    (Kanz ul-‘Ummaal, Asd bin Humayd)

152.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       As for him who has two wives and does not do justice to them, he will be seen on the day of Resurrection with one side of his body leaning down.    (Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, Nasa’i)

Collected  from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him),  Written by Justice Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani &  Published by Darul Ishaat, Urdu Bazaar Karachi, by Muhammad Sharif Fauji